Monthly Archive for January, 2008

Another long day.

The good news is that I completed my school work (both for class and the outside project I needed to finish today).

The bad news is that I got hit with “technical difficulties” while at work so I am already behind where I intended to be on my new job.

I totally missed the Hillary Clinton-Barack Obama debate tonight because I was in class. My cousin Andrew drove up from San Diego to go to the Obama rally.

I have to mail my absentee ballot in this weekend to make sure my vote gets in on time.

Pretty sure about who I’m voting for in the primary, but I’m still not totally sold on either. Usually I’m pretty decisive about who I like/don’t like.

Last day of January. Where did the month go!?!?

Oh so freakin’ tired…

…before anyone thinks that the new Bossdude is a slave driver, I just want to clarify that the reason I stayed at the office until almost midnight was to work on some school work.

That said, I did work 9 hours today for work-work.

I am almost done with my school work and even beat my own deadline to leave the office before midnight.

Now I’m going to try not to throw up before I go to bed.


I survived Day 2 at the new gig and didn’t get fired.

Hooray for the little things, eh?

Last night I got hit with a horrible migraine. It actually started in the afternoon of my first day at the new gig, but I held it together pretty well until I asked Bossdude (pay attention: this is not the same person as BossMan or Bossguy, this is my newest boss: Bossdude!) if he had aspirin over dinner.

I made it home just in time to get sick, show off my new laptop to my Bro, and then promptly pass out in bed at the late hour of 8:30pm. I did not wake up until 10 hours later: 6:30am when Bro was leaving for work and he made sure I got up to get ready for work. My Bro rules!

It was really bad that I slept for 10 hours, not just because I wasn’t feeling well. Mostly, I was expecting to get 5 hours of (school) work done and instead, I got none done. Bad.

I wasn’t feeling too great after getting home (well, my OC home) from work today either, so I had to take a nap before having dinner. My Mom is the bestest and made the yummiest food while I was in OC. I wish I had more of an appetite, though. I also had to apologize for treating her place like a hotel the last couple of nights. I basically just came home, ate, slept, and had maid service. Not cool of me.

I also had to drive back to LA to get back to my real home (with Yoshi) tonight.

Anyway, I am going to be up for a bit tonight and then I’m going to get up early so I can get to my 7:30am doctor’s appointment before work tomorrow.

Whew! This is a nutso week!

Sorry if I don’t check in for a bit, but obviously, I’m totally crazy busy!

Oh yes, FYI, I will be going to Vegas to work this weekend. Not for the new Bossdude but for an old client I do bookkeeping for. As if I didn’t have anything else to worry about, right?!??!

Hi ho, hi ho…

…it’s off to my first day at work at the new gig!

The embarrassing truth.

Time to clean my purse out again.

Bitch Bag

I’ve been running around using my Angry Little Girls totebag (I call it my “Bitch Bagâ„¢”) as a purse for a few months. I’m not really “into” Angry Little Girls, but this bag was really appropriate for me and I love it. Michael sent it me a few years ago for my birthday. Thank you again, darlin‘!

Ok, so this is a really inappropriate purse to take to work, but I did it anyway and generally most people laughed at it. Most people. Whatevs! I don’t work there anymore!

Anyway, since I am starting a new job tomorrow, I figured I should probably start using a REAL PURSE for a while, so I transferred everything into a new Coach Soho Satchel handbag that Yoshi bought me a year or two ago for my birthday. It’s new because I loved the handbag so much that I was afraid to use it.

I won’t do a break down of everything that was in my purse because I just don’t have the time for that right now, but WOW! was there a lot of random stuff in there.

Random thoughts at 4am

-I just made a post at entitled: Let’s talk about sex. I wonder who all is going to check THAT post out.

-Chatted with Bobo today. Two of her daughters are having health issues. I’m thinking of them. I also found out that one of the daughters knows me as “Aunt I Don’t Remember Her Name.” Haha, cute. At least she calls me “Aunt.”

-It rained for much of the day. Did some rainy day reading and read something that really moved me.

-Chatted with JJ for a while and kept him up way past his bedtime. He’s known me for so long and can see right through when I’m putting up a front. He’s such a good friend and I love him to bits.

-There is some strange beeping outside that hasn’t stopped for at least 15 minutes. I wonder if it’ll stop before I finish this post.

-I went to the post office today in Hollywood and my crowd gathering disease kicked in. My Mom and I have this weird power where we can walk into a room/store/whatever that is basically empty except for us and then be totally and completely crowded when we leave. I showed up at the post office and there was only one person ahead of me. When I left, there were at least 20 people in line. (Yoshi can vouch for the existence of this power. Unfortunately, I have not figured out how to control this power and use it to fight evil yet.)

-Spontaneously decided to go get a mani/pedi as a treat for starting the new gig. My fingers have been frenched. My toes are hot-pinkified.

-Yoshi was gone all day and I was home alone for most of the day. Yoshi had to drive back in the rain and had a migraine after getting home. We got into bed and snuggled. And so that we could be in bed together, I turned on my laptop to work in bed instead of at my desktop in the other room.

-I love chatting with Akrypti. She’s the bestest.

-Tons to do this weekend. Tomorrow I’m off to OC for a few days. Yes, a few days. I’ll be staying with Mom and Bro.

-OMG the beeping has not stopped. But the heater has turned on so I can’t hear the beeping as much.

One year ago today, we found out that we had lost our J-X

It was a year ago that C2 called me with the horrible news that our good friend John Ingram (J-X) had been found dead in his apartment. (Resisting the urge to make a Heath Ledger comment)

To this day, we’re not exactly sure what happened, but it doesn’t really matter because at the end of the day, J-X is still gone.

John was on my mind yesterday when C2 and I were having farewell drinks at The Well. John undoubtedly would have been there to celebrate with me.

He was my first friend at the company and I miss him so much sometimes. C2 and I think about him a lot when we talk about TV shows and movies that we think John would have liked (or mocked). If you read my post from last year, then you would know that John used to send me emails about George Takei in the news. Since John has been gone, C2 (and some of my other friends) have been good enough to step up and send me George Takei news to me.

Last year, after blogging about John, I had an urge to email George Takei directly. Yoshi said I was being weird and stalker-ish, but I didn’t care. This is what I sent [with a few minor edits]:

—–Original Message—–
From: joz
Sent: Friday, January 26, 2007 1:55 AM

Dear George,

For a while now, I’ve been meaning to send you a letter; to thank you for coming out and being visible, to congratulate you on your recent successes, to say “Hi neighbor! I live near [you] and we both get our mail at [the same place]!” But those messages seem to be successively more stalker-ish and scary, even though they are not meant to be.

I have broken down to send you a note because I just found out that I lost a good friend this week. My friend John passed away and I just found out about it tonight. And at the risk of sounding stalker-ish and scary, George, I want you to know that one reason my friendship to John was so special is because of you.

It’s hard to explain, but if you are interested in reading more, I wrote about it on my blog at Here is the direct link:

If you are scared and would like to call the cops, don’t worry, I’m harmless. The only place I plan on stalking you is on my TiVo when you appear on Heroes next week.


And because George Takei is a good man with a kind soul, he not only read my email, he went to my site and read my post, and he responded with the following email:

At 02:56 PM 1/26/2007, George Takei wrote:

Dear Joz,

My condolences on the loss of your friend, John. It sounds like it was a good and beautiful friendship. My heartfelt sympathies go our to you.

Please do not think I might consider your e-mail “stalker-ish.” I appreciate your kind words. It seems you are rather prescient — or perhaps you sent me some psychic waves that prompted me to talk to the press. Actually, it was Governor Arnold Swartzennegger’s veto of the Same Sex Marriage Bill that prompted me to talk to the press. I wanted my voice to be authentic.


I post this exchange for John, because he would have loved it. Except for the part about him being dead, that is. (That may sound crass, but if you had known John’s sarcasm, he totally would have said that.)

And one more thing… for John. For so many reasons, this is one of the most embarrassing pictures of me (my hair! my outfit! my geeked out smile!), but it is with George Takei, so of course John loved it. He said it was one of his favorite pictures of all time, so for him, I’ll post it here:
George Takei & joz!

I miss you, John, you big galoot.

A perfect final day at the old job.

(Written 1/26/08 @ 12:30pm)

When I woke up for my last day of work, I was excited, nervous, and happy. At the same time, I was a little wistful and nostalgic about leaving behind a certain chapter of my life.

The day went smoothly as I closed out my accounts, passed off all my files, distributed my office supply goodies (Yes, you can have my electric pencil sharpener. No, the other guy already asked for my tape gun…), turned in all the keys to all the offices I had, and cleaned off my desk. More importantly, I cleaned off my computer, wiping it clean (well as clean as I could easily get it) of all the crap I had installed on my desktop.

For lunch, EC took me out to Magnolia where I ordered my favorite dishes: marinated skirt steak salad (medium well) + a side of brussel sprouts sauteed in butter. Yum. I couldn’t believe it was going to be our last lunch as co-workers and I got really sad because I’ll really, really miss having EC down the hall to talk to and vent at. And now we’ll have to go out of our ways to set up times to get together, which of course I don’t mind doing, but it’s just that much harder. (Side note: John Henson and Kat Foster were both (separately) having lunch there, too).

Everything went even more smoothly than I could have possibly predicted, down to perfect timing of me completing my final work project at 5:25pm, so I could ship it off to my boss in Florida before heading downstairs to have drinks with my friends at The Well. Over the next couple of hours, a bunch of people showed up to have a drink with me; I was especially grateful to the guys who stepped away for a few from their work on the box office stuff (Friday nights are hugely important) to join.

Then at 7:15, I left the bar, exactly at the time I planned. I went back up to my desk, finished the last couple of things I was doing on my computer before shutting it down for the final time. I grabbed my stuff, did a final walkthrough to say goodbye to the folks who were still there and working (but couldn’t get downstairs for drinks) and I left the building exactly on time for me to get my 8pm appointment for a massage.

That’s right. I ended it all with a relaxing and wonderful massage appointment.

On the way home, I checked a voicemail that my former Bossguy had left for me, telling me how proud he was of me for moving on to the next step of my career and how much he misses working with me. He made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside with his call.

When I got home from my massage, Yoshi had dinner already prepared for me.

I went online to make this post, but my server was down for most of the night.

No matter, it meant that I could go to bed at a decent hour… with Yoshi, no less! We talked for a long time, about where our life together is going, about how fast the last seven years of bliss together has gone, and then I finally shut my eyes and fell into a deep, joyous sleep.

Life is good.

Oh so tired.

I went to bed at 4:30 am and woke up around 7:30. I let myself snooze and doze and got up at 8:30.

It’s now 11:30pm and I just got home half an hour ago after a full day at work + driving across town in the rain + class + driving back in the rain. Whew, am I exhausted!

It’s starting to sink in that after 3 years at my current company, tomorrow is my last day at work. I have a huge list of things to do tomorrow. Yikes!

I do look forward to celebrating with a drink or four after work with my friends and colleagues.

After today, only two days left…

Yesterday I sent out my “farewell” email to my colleagues and clients at my current job. (Everyone advised me not to do this on my last day.) I got a lot of responses right away. Most people were surprised that I’m leaving the company, but everyone was supportive. Some people were curious, but you know me, I don’t like to give too much info about stuff like that.

Since it’s official and public knowledge that I’m leaving the company, today was a really busy day of people calling me up, asking how to do things. Bleh. THIS is why you say farewell at the last minute and shut it all down… so no one can ask you for anything! Heh.

Oh wellz.

One of my favorite people at work (DS) took me out for a very nice farewell lunch at Katsuya, which is a wannabe Nobu-type restaurant. Still very yummy and so nice to sit and talk to him.

Today I also did things like shut down my corporate purchasing card as well as my corporate expense account. I’ll miss my dear friends Visa and Amex!

It’s so weird that this chapter of my life/career is really ending. On one hand I can’t wait to move on to something new. On the other hand, I will really miss certain people and certain things about the job.


I started out the day with a big “oops.” While Yoshi was out of town, I was supposed to reschedule a chiro appt. When I called to do this, I also rescheduled my appt so we could come together. Even though I wrote the appointment down, I kind of lost the piece of paper I wrote it on, so the appointments never actually made it into the calendar. I did remember the appointment was for this morning, so I made a (wrong) guess as to the time of the appointment. We showed up 45 minutes late to our appointments. Ooops. Usually we get a call reminding us of our appointment times, but unfortunately, the receptionist had been in a car accident (she got rear-ended) yesterday so she wasn’t around to make calls. Still, it was totally my bad.

I made my next appointment and it is now in my calendar. For the right time.


Dinner was with my friend Dave and his friend NL, who I was meeting for the first time. Dave has been meaning to get us all together for months, but between our crazy schedules, today was the first day we could make it happen. Of course, it meant that we all had to drive in torrential rain to get to the restaurant, but we made it. We had a great dinner and discussion. Looking forward to seeing them both again soon.


Wow. I did a lot today. But I still haven’t had a chance to work on the project that I really need to finish before Friday. I don’t know how I’m going to make that happen. Yuck!

I did it! I gave myself a tattoo*!

*Ok, it’s not really a tattoo, and hopefully it is not permanent.

I stayed up really late Monday night doing paperwork and was just wrapping up some stuff I had been writing (with an actual pen instead of something less hazardous, like typing on a keyboard).

The pen is new and it’s kind of hard to make the cap snap back on so I took the pen and jammed down on it with my palm to push the cap down.

Except that I had the cap on the wrong side of the pen and what I actually did was stab myself REALLY REALLY hard in the center of my right palm with a sharp black pen.

Oh holy mother of all things good and evil… gawd it hurt so bad!

This happened at around 3am, which told me that I was probably tired and should probably go to bed soon. I got some rubbing alcohol to disinfect the stab wound but considering I have ink inside the stab wound, it’s no wonder it still hurts almost 24 hours later.

It had stopped bleeding by the time I had gone to bed, but when I woke up in the morning, my hand was really sore.

And yes, you can see the one black spot where I accidentally “tattooed” my own hand.

I rule.

Not just a Monday off of work

Back in the day when I used to work for Bossman, we never got MLK Day off. He believed that Dr King did not work hard so that we could have an extra day off from work to go to the beach. So in compensation for our having to work on MLK Day, Bossman would select another day to take off,

While I absolutely appreciate and agree with Bossman’s sentiments, most companies just give us the Monday off in January.

That said, after our night at the Hyatt, Yoshi and I checked out of the hotel to have a bite to eat at Jerry’s Famous Deli in Beverly Hills. After that, we headed back to the reality of home.

Ahh, home. Love it.

(Written 1/22/08)

Saturday night at home; Sunday night at the Riot Hyatt

I spent all day Saturday at home trying to take care of the list of a million things to do. I tried to clean, but I just didn’t get around to doing as much as I would have liked.

Our friend Dave came over on Saturday night to keep me company and to help me set up the projector (which still doesn’t have a name) in the living room so we could watch a DVD. We ended up watching The Muppet Movie, which neither of us had seen in well over a decade. Even though Dave dozed off during one segment of the movie, we both agreed that the movie still stands up surprisingly well.

I had to work during the day on Sunday, but I was done around 4:30pm. This was roughly the time that Yoshi’s flight came in at Burbank, so I rushed myself over the hill to go do the airport pick-up myself. Since Yoshi’s stuff was covered in cat hair, we needed to go home and unpack as well as repack for our night out (remember the free night at a hotel?).

It’s a really good thing that we did not have to stay at our place on Sunday night because I really did not make a very big dent in the cleaning that needed to be done. As such, a night out in a hotel was a nice distraction from the reality of our messy place.

It did take us forever to get out of the door and over to the Hyatt on Sunset in West Hollywood (aka the Riot Hyatt). And as soon as we got there, we saw all the scaffolding and went “Uh oh, I hope the construction noise doesn’t start way early.” We got inside to check-in and they informed us that construction starts at 8am. The front desk offered to move us over to the Hyatt in Century City, but it ended up not making sense to do that. Plus, it turned out that construction wasn’t scheduled for MLK Day (the next morning), so we were in luck.

They put us in one of the newly renovated rooms, which was extremely nice. (I wrote a review on Yelp) It was so nice to spend time with Yoshi after being apart all week.

And for the record, no strangers attempted to enter our hotel room on this stay.

(Written 1/22/08)

Yes, I do have a lot of that. (But no comment on the other thing.)

So I was awakened not too long ago by my Mom’s friend RH (indeed, a really close family friend), who is helping us with a few things. When we talk it’s usually a frenetic conversation in Chinglish– both Chinese and English– depending on the topic.

When we were done talking shop, she asked me how I was doing because I haven’t seen her for a while and she mentioned that she saw a recent picture of me and noticed that I had gained some weight since I last saw her. (Ahhh, there’s nothing like the blunt, tactless commentary that you’ll get from a close Taiwanese/Chinese lady friend. If it wasn’t absolutely true and obvious, I probably would have been pretty mad. Besides, it “comes from a good place,” just like it does when my Mom says similar things. Although after all these years of carping about my weight, my Mom has finally stopped with the fat comments.)

The last time RH and I spent any time together was when my father was in the hospital. It has been about a year and a half since that time and I am not proud to say that I’ve gained something like 30 lbs since then.

I blame it on a combination of not eating right (my fault), not exercising (my fault) and possibly a bit of the way my body is (always had trouble with weight regulation, not my fault, but this is probably the factor I have the least control over and that I blame the least for my weight gain).

In the last two years, I have been working a full-time job + going to school full-time + lost my Dad and taken on a lot of family responsibility + learning how to deal with the grief of losing such a close loved one. Oh yeah, I don’t get a heck of a lot of sleep, either.

The first two things alone (work + school) was enough to derail me a little bit from a relatively decent (not-quite-healthy-but-not-so-bad lifestyle), but the combination of all those things above really put me in a tailspin. I have been running around for a long time, not thinking about what I am putting into my body, not doing too much exercise, and definitely not sleeping enough to give myself the rest I so desperately need all the time.

Ok, all that said, what does the title of my post mean?

So RH was asking me why I had gained so much weight so quickly. She was concerned about health issues, like did I have some sort of weird immunological disease or something. I told her I didn’t think so and just said that I wasn’t really taking care of myself or exercising, etc. She asked me a bunch more questions (Had I been to the doctor? What did they say? etc) and I answered them half-heartedly.

Then she asked me something that got my attention.

RH: “DO YOU HAVE A LOT OF SEX?” (in English)

“WHAT?!” I asked in Chinese, really shocked by the mention of the subject. (I do NOT talk to my Mom about such things, so I am not going to go talking to her close friend about stuff like this. As far as my Mom likes to believe, I don’t even know what sex is and I’m not planning on changing that perception for a while!)

RH: “I said, ‘Do you have a lot of sex?'” (she repeated in English)

Joz: …

I sat there dumbfounded in silence, which is pretty damn unusual for me. What the hell is she bringing this up for?! What the hell am I going to say?! How do I change the topic!?!?! Arrrrgh! So embarrassing!

Since I didn’t answer for a bit (maybe like 10 seconds, which is an eternity, especially for a blabbermouth like me), she asked the question again:

RH: “Did you hear what I asked?” (in Chinese)
RH: “Do you have a lot of PRESSURE on you?” (in English.)

Joz: “Pressure?” (in English)

RH: “Yes, pressure. STRESS. Do you have a lot of STRESS?” (in English)

OMG! She was asking me about STRESS, not SEX! Thank god!

Joz: “Pressure? Oh yeah, I have lots of that. You know that.”

RH: “You shouldn’t worry so much, try to relax and not to take on so much pressure. It’s not good for your body.” (in Chinese)

Joz: “Yeah, I know.” (Joz changes the subject quickly)

So to recap…

Yes, I do have a lot of that. STRESS

(But no comment on the other thing.) SEX

Oh gawd I love these Chinglish conversations.

PS – The last few days excepted, I have been eating better and have dropped 8-10 lbs since the beginning of the year. I’m working on it. Really, I am.

Friday night news

(Written 1/19/08 @ 3:40am)

-Woke up early to drive to Culver City. I finally got my new contacts! I can see again!

-Came home to take a conference call. Don’t know why I was on the call, but I volunteered to take notes so I could be helpful.

-Arrived at the office in time for HS’s farewell lunch. Will miss her! It will probably be the last time I get to lunch with that group of people.

-Lots to do at work, but mostly because I have been a big ol’ procrastinator all week. Also lots of people to talk to.

-Random: I shredded 12 (yes, twelve) old checkbooks today. Can you believe I had that many old checkbooks sitting around?

-Left the office at 7pm to get a massage. The therapist kept commenting on how tight my neck and shoulders are. I am sore now, and still tight.

-Went back to the office because I left something there. Felt guilty for not finishing the item that was due on the 15th so stayed until midnight working on it.

-Right as I was going to leave, my co-worker JS (who had been in Tampa all week) showed up. He was there to meet with the night staff, but since we hadn’t talked in well over a week, we talked until past 1am.

-Got home around 1:30am

-I miss Yoshi, who gets back to LA Sunday night.

-Needed a shower. Took a shower. Feel nice and clean now. Yay!

Ok, if you got through all that randomness, here’s the news:

-It’s official! (Ok, it’s been official for a few days now, but I haven’t shared.) THIS is the good news I’ve been waiting to share: Next Friday will be my last day at my current company!

I am starting a brand-spankin’ new job on Monday 1/28!


(Written 1/19/98 @ 3:30am)

-Work: Busy day at the office. Conference call in the morning got canceled… yay!

-Lunch: Baja Fresh take-out with C2.

-Class in WLA: Lectures are hard to sit through, even harder to get too excited about. Wish I was more engaged or was getting more out of it

-Up way late at night again. What’s up with this insomnia!?

-I miss Yoshi.

Wednesday, Wednesday

After talking Dave’s ear off on Tuesday night, I was still wide awake. I sat down and watched a bunch of TV and the next thing I knew, it was 4:30am and I had fallen asleep in front of the TV. I went to bed, but then I was wide-awake and watched some trash (Dance War: Bruno vs Carrie Ann) on the TiVo in the bedroom. It was light out before my eyes closed.

And then the construction crew next door showed up and started banging on shit.

For lunch, C2 and I actually left the area and opted to eat at someplace other than Baja Fresh. I offered Sizzler or CPK, in honor of our late friend John Ingram. We used to go as a threesome for lunch to those places; now it’s just me and C2. We ended up at Sizzler, home of the Malibu Chicken Sandwich John loved so much. We both miss John so much.

At the office, I had a bunch of little things to take care of, but it wasn’t too bad. Tomorrow I have a conference call I don’t want to be part of, but it could be worse. After I left work, I ran a couple of errands (going to the post office and returning some stuff to Bed, Bath & Beyond). But while I was out, both of my plans (Plan A and Plan B) called to back out on getting together tonight.

I ended up at home, in my PJs, in front of the space heater in the bedroom or under the covers with my laptop because it’s so chilly in our house.

I was tearing the house apart looking for an important document, but I have resigned myself that I have misplaced it somewhere in this disaster area I call home. Now it’s worse than it was before and I still don’t have the document. I’ve got to get up early and figure out how I can get a duplicate of that thing.

What else?

While sitting in bed, I was killing time by listening to Carpenters music on YouTube. I joked that I was practicing my karaoke for the next time I see stkyrice, but what really happened was that I was searching for something else and accidentally clicked on one Carpenters video and the next thing I knew, I’d listened to a ton of Carpenters songs. On the bright side, I think I can (kind of) sing a bunch of those songs for karaoke for real now. Scary thought, no?

I don’t like going to bed alone at night. I miss Yoshi.

Tuesday, Tuesday

Yoshi Airport Craziness in the morning.

Began when we overslept and I woke up at 7am when we were supposed to have been walking out the door at 6:30. We got to Burbank around 7:45, I dropped Yoshi off, and started to head back except that Yoshi called and said that the flight was canceled. I had to drive Yoshi to LAX to make an 11am flight. We stopped to grab a quick bite to eat and got to LAX around 9ish, but by the time I got my butt across town and back home (to take a shower) it was past 10am. And I really needed a nap. Blah.

When I was at the office, I noticed a huge plume of smoke coming from a residential area. I covered it at Fire near La Brea / Third / Wilshire on Detroit just North of 6th; felt nice to be providing up to the minute info.

Skipped lunch, but had to leave work early to get to WLA for a tutorial session at 6:30. But I thought it was at 6 and got there super early. Ooop.

Tutorial was good, but I was distracted by drama unfolding via IM at home with Bro and Mom regarding some of the paperwork we worked on over the weekend. Looks like we have to re-do a bunch of it. Doh.

After I was done at school, I met up for a late bite to eat with my old friend JP and his daughter. Man, it’s been a long time since I’d seen either of them. They both looked great but I barely recognized JP’s daughter who was a pipsqueak when I saw her last. Now she’s a beautiful young lady. Wow, time flies. It was great to catch up on old times with the two of them. Such a pleasure.

Headed home and started craving a frozen treat and ended up at Pavilion’s in the freezer section, trying to pick out ice cream that wouldn’t make it feel too guilty after I got home. My friend Dave called me and I ended up talking to him until past midnight. I really opened up and talked about some stuff that I never really talk about. Wow.

Sorry ‘about that, Dave. I think I was just lonely because Yoshi wasn’t home for me to bug. Thanks for being a great friend.

Mika tickets! Drinks! Thai food!

I’m either too tired or too tipsy (or both too tired and tipsy) to write up what I did today.

Here’s what I got:
-I had lunch with EC today at our usual place: Zen Zoo Tea. She brought pictures of the baby boy she is carrying in her tummy to share with me… I’d never seen a print from a 4D ultrasound… so cool and strange at the same time.

-Had drinks with a friend from B-school (he’s already graduated) and he brought me some tickets he’d purchased on my behalf… so it’s official… I’m going to the Mika concert next month! I love Mika! I think he is freakin’ adorable and I am soooo excited to go. Even though the tickets were not expensive, my friend was kind enough to get me the tickets at face value (no surcharges), saving me enough money to buy several drinks at the Well… er, Happy Hour prices, anyway.

-I usually don’t get tipsy when I drink, but I think three on an empty stomach might have been too many. Oop.

-I was supposed to have a dinner date with Yoshi but stayed out too late at the bar to eat at a normal hour. By the time I got home, Yoshi was grumbling, “No more drinking for you.” We ended up in Thai Town at Sanamulang. Now that I have more food in my tummy, I am less tipsy.

Time for sleep.

Crazy busy weekend

My weekends always seem to be jam-packed these days.

I honestly can’t even remember as far back as Friday. What did I do Friday night? I have no recollection! Oh wait… I do remember one thing.

Earlier in the week, Mom & I had talked on the phone about my plans for the weekend. Since I hadn’t been back to OC since Thanksgiving, she said she needed me to come visit and help her with a few things. I mentioned that I might have to work on Sunday (she had something written down that reminded us both that I was indeed supposed to be working on Sunday) so I told her I would plan to be there on Saturday.

Well late Friday night, my Mom called me to say that she was looking forward to seeing me on Sunday. WHAT?!?!? I was like, “Mom, weren’t YOU the one who reminded ME that I needed to work on Sunday?” She was like, “Are you sure? I just made plans for Saturday afternoon with some friends and can’t cancel them now.” !!!

I told her that I would still go back on Saturday, even if she wouldn’t be around as long as my Bro was around (so he and I could do stuff). Then she started trying to talk me into not going back at all. I told her we could talk about in the morning.

The next morning, my Mom called me up at 7:30am (on a SATURDAY!?!) to wake me up because she wanted me to go back to OC early so we could maximize our time together. While this was a wonderful idea, I WAS TIRED! + I WAS STILL SLEEPING! = GRUMPY JOZ! And I was not going to pay attention to anything she said to me at that hour. Unfortunately, I couldn’t get back to sleep after the call, so I futzed around the house and was looking for a few things I needed to take back to OC, including several years worth of recycling (aluminum cans, plastic bottles, and glass).

Lucky for me, Yoshi didn’t mind spending the day with me in OC and tagged along. It was a good thing, too, because I was so focused on driving that I wasn’t listening to the traffic report on the radio. There was a big fire on the 5 and thanks to Yoshi’s attentive listening skills, we were able to take a detour and avoid this scene.

Bro and I took all the recycling to the recycle yard and got $139.71 back in cash for it! We also ran errands which involved going to get gas from Costco, picking up movie tickets from the AMC next door, as well as swinging by the PO Box to get my ABSENTEE BALLOT for the February 5 primary. Whoo! The rest of the day Saturday was spent at the house: eating, doing paperwork, napping, and trying to keep warm.

Late that night, all 3 of us we headed back to LA where we continued to stay up even later, doing stuff at my place. Sheesh.

Sunday morning, I could not wake myself up early enough to do the remaining paperwork I still had left to do. I did drop Bro off at his gf’s place and then went off to work, as planned.

Around noonish, my Mom called my cell phone: “Are you awake? Did I wake you up?”

“Actually, Mom,” I said in Chinese, “I’ve been up for several hours now and am already at work. Did you forget that I have to work today?!” We talked about a few more things and I got off the phone.

Unfortunately, several clients overhead me speaking to my Mom and they cornered me. “I didn’t know you could speak Chinese! I didn’t know you could speak it so well! If I had known, I would have asked you about _____!”

ARRRRGH! This is why I pretend not to speak Chinese there! I don’t get paid enough to do to client service and hand-holding for the Chinese-speaking people there! I am supposed to go there, push a bunch of buttons, yell a little, and go off on my merry way! Anyway, it was nice to get some validation that my Chinese skills haven’t totally eluded me, but still.

I got home from work a little earlier than expected, but then had to finish the paperwork that I had put off from earlier in the day.

I was also distracted by the NEW COMPUTER that my brother had given me for my birthday (several months ago) and that he set up for me the previous night. Of course, I was so frustrated by not having everything on the new computer the way I wanted it that I started throwing things and grumbling like crazy.

It was late and I totally needed to go to sleep.

Can I have another weekend to recover from my weekend?

Remembering Teresita…

Sometimes, it’s really hard for me to grasp just how quickly time flies. In so many ways, three years ago seems like it was just yesterday; at the same time so much has happened since that time.

For the last several weeks, I have been thinking a lot about my friend Teresita, who passed away 3 years ago yesterday. [My original post about Teresita is here:]

Joz & Teresita 2003

I’ve been missing her a lot not just because an anniversary is coming up, but because there has been so much going on in my life, and I miss sharing my adventures with her. While I’m very lucky and grateful to be surrounded by so many wonderful people who care about me now, I really miss the special friendship and bond Teresita and I shared.

I know I am lucky to have so many friends in real life and via my blog to share my stories with, but I know that Teresita’s patient ear and unique insights will never be replicated. Sometimes when I stay up really late, I think about how I used to stay up all night doing the crazy stuff I used to do and then call her before I would go to bed so we could talk as she was getting up and starting her day.

Teresita was a constant source of support when I needed her the most. She always believed in me and saw great things for my future, even when I couldn’t see anything but fog ahead for myself.

She always let me know exactly how things were: no matter how hard it was for me to hear the painful (or hard-to-face) truth. We could never lie to each other because we could see right through everything else and always got to the heart of matters. We understood each other without having to say anything to each other.

I consider myself lucky to have ever known such an amazing woman and I am so very happy that she was my closest friend when Yoshi and I first began our relationship. Teresita and I got to share the “girl talks” two friends have when one of them falls in love with the love of her life. I’m so glad that Yoshi and I got to spend time with Teresita and Dan in Vegas not too long after that.

I don’t know what else I mean to say in this post, except that every so often I feel a hole in my heart for Teresita when I realize that she’s physically not in this world with me anymore.

Teresita’s family put up a memorial slide show on their family website here:

One of my favorite pictures of her is this one:


Even though I didn’t know her when she was this age, this is the beautiful smile I see on her face when I think of her.

Teresita, I still love you and miss you.

Yay for free nights at a hotel!

One of the good things about traveling a lot is that sometimes the frequent customer points finally catch up to you!

Even though I prefer to stay at boutique hotels instead of chain hotels, I have had a free night at a Hyatt to use for about 2 months and the darn thing expires at the end of January. Was going to use it for New Years in SF, but we didn’t book it far enough in advance.

Lucky for me, MLK Day is coming up soon and I was just able to redeem the free stay for me and Yoshi to enjoy!

Yay! I can’t wait!

In a funk, but that changed

I woke up in a funk this morning. I don’t know how to explain it.

I worked from home all morning until I got a mini-migraine and had to stop. Consequently, I took a nap and ended up going to the office in the evening, staying really late working on a bunch of things that have been hanging over my head.

I talked to both Bro and Mom today and they reminded me that we had a bunch of things that needed to be taken care of in really short order. Yikes! Vacation is DEFINITELY over!

Mom also reminded me that she has to go back to Taiwan this year, before March to vote in the Taiwanese presidential elections. I have a feeling she’ll stay in Taiwan for a while after that. Doh. I like having her here.

On the bright side, I got some really good news today. Getting that news got me out of the funk I was in this morning. For those of you I’m closest with, you already know this news. The rest of you will have to wait.

I’ll give you a hint of what the news is NOT (since every time I mention good news this seems to be the guess)… I am


expecting a baby!

NOTE TO SHARKY: I cannot believe this is the first thing you guessed when I said I had “good news” share! I still think you and Doetzi should “split” the responsibilities, though.

Massage = good

Migraine = bad

That just about sums up my day.

Home alone and cold and lonely.

Ok, it’s not all that bad. But I am trying to play up the sympathy factor here.

Home alone!



No Yoshi to snuggle with and keep me warm!

Is it working?

Or am I just sounding whiny?

Ahh, who cares! Another evening that I get to lie in bed and play around on my laptop. It’s a luxury that I won’t have much time for as the semester ramps up.

This morning I had an appointment with my chiropractor. I hadn’t seen him in months and he made some comment about my neck and shoulders being tight. So I’m getting a massage tomorrow night and then I go back again next Monday for another adjustment. I can’t wait for my massage! I need it in a big way!

Last night Yoshi and I had dinner at our friends L & S’s home. It was so lovely to spend an evening with them and the food was so good, too!

While we were gone to Northern California last week, I’d left my car on the street and the battery died. We had to get the battery jumped by AAA and so after that I was sitting in the car and waiting for Yoshi.

I snapped this picture while sitting alone in the cold, dark car. I’m also wearing Yoshi’s coat.

Sitting in the car in the rain.  In the dark.  In the cold.

What do you think? Do you like my wet, messy, windblown hair? Can you tell I’m hungry? Heh.

PS – I finally updated the “Happy 2008!” post with a picture. Check it out!

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